Well today marks the second day to the New Year and I am not sure how I am liking it so far. I mean the 1st of the year was OK, but today we got an unexpected call that no one really wants to here, the partners mother passed away this morning and it was a complete shock to us all. I mean complete shock. I think once the funeral is done and over with things will kind of get better and semi easier., though who knows really.. Its a New Year and a new Start!
Other than that 2020 promises to be a good year. Well we can hope so anyway. I am sure I will still have my challenges this year as I did last but that is about it.. No resolutions that are never really kept anyway. I do not see the point.. Yes, I always say i am going to blog more but i have not see that happen yet! I say that i am going to do this and that and nothing has happened yet! So no resolutions. Just see how the year goes and hopefully it is a good one!
Well, It took me a bit to get back to this post and finish it. Alot has happened over the 6 days. My Partners birth mom passed away unexpectedly and its been a mess here. Going through her things now and the funeral. I just want to scream. I can not seem to catch a break honestly. I am over ran! Though I am hoping that once things settle down I will be able to sit and write more, though who knows.. Well I better get this posted.. Will be back soon with an update!
You can’t put a price tag on love or can you? That is the one thing that is on my mind today! Why, the reasoning is very simple.. My birthday is next month and I was thinking about what I wanted.. I do not ask for much on my birthday simple reasons I never get it.. The first thing that came to mind is something I have wanted to do for a while now.. A simple tattoo on my shoulder blade that says Always & Forever. That came to a quick no, because her family does not believe in tattoos. They are the work of the devil and so forth. I have 7 and would I go as far as regretting my tattoos no way in hell.. So thinking about it something else that came to mind is a New Barnes and Nobles Nook because the one I have died and I love reading.. I was told when I get the money and thinking to my self how the hell is that ever going to happen because I have no job because I stay here and clean the house and take care of every one else.. You would think that someone who supposedly loves you and appreciates everything that you do for them as much as she claims she does would spend a little bit on money on the person you care about.. I was sadly mistaken. So it seems a price tag has been put on love.. Hell I have told her for months that I need a pedicure because my heals are getting so bad that it hurts to walk, that has not happened yet and possibly wont happen anytime soon. SO guess what I deal with it.. I was told that I ask for everything.. Ok just because I said something in cute does not mean I want it.. Yes, It would be nice to actually have new clothes that I have not had for years but no that wont happen.. I deal with what I have. Do I want to get out and get a job yes just so i can get away from here. But what then I still wont have money because I have to help with the household expenses while She does nothing because her back is hurt. I hurt to but then again i am told its NOT ALWAYS ABOUT ME! Story of my life.. Nothing is never about me! Can i be put first before anyone else even a dog? No I am last when it comes to everyone!
That is why the post title today.. I feel that love came with a price tag and honestly. The thing is what can you do to change it or fix it when it comes to this point! Enough ramblings for the moment.. I will be back later!
Ever get those feelings like you are never enough for anyone no matter what you do! How do you make them stop is the biggest question? Tears that fall so easily because its a all you have known and history seems to repeat its self no matter what I do or say! You give your all to someone and it seems that no matter what it fails miserably! Making you question everything you do or say! Making you truly think that you are the one who causes everything! As I sit here trying to get things out the way I want to, tears are trying to form but I try to hide them because I am told I am to emotional. That I need to stop crying because No one wants to hear it! You are supposed to be here to support me not me supporting you and getting nothing in return! I lay awake at night and wonder why is it so wrong to want to be held! To what the attention and the love that I deserve! I guess I will just forever be NEVER ENOUGH FOR ANYONE!
I am not even sure where to begin with 2018. It seems to start and end the same way. Hoping that the new year is alot better but who can really say that for sure. You think when you start off a year it will always be better than the last one but honestly it seems to turn out just like the last one. The only thing 2018 taught me is never look back on the past. Always look forward to tomorrow. Never take things or any one for granted.. You never know what the future will hold for you or them! They may cross your path again. Usually that means they are in your life for one reason or another! You never know!
Though 2019 I am determined to make it better for me. I plan on making the most of the new year! What are my 2019 Goals ? I have a few of them actually
Blog More – Do a few posts a week
Find a good job. All things considered if appointments for everyone allows
Talk to my kids more. I may not be able to see them as much as i want to but that does not mean i can not talk to them Facetime, skype, what ever it may be.
Read more – put my kindle and my nook to use. READ
clean out my hard drives finally – delete alot of the old things! Pictures i will of course save because though they may hold pieces of past memories you never know when you want to look back at what life has taught you!
Get a better phone!
Realize who my friends and family are and remove those out of my life that always try to put me down no matter what i do.
be better organized – use Cozi more for appointments and reminders of things – clean my file cabinets as well as my paper files as well as the shelf i have.. See what i want to keep and remove all the other stuff.. RECYCLE
Loose some weight- I am not big by any means but i want to loose some weight
DO MORE FOR ME AND ENJOY 2019 – Making the most of it!
Sometimes you ask yourself are you really strong enough to get through everything that lies ahead but you realize you’ve done it before just in a different place yes I know I’m strong because I’ve stood on my feet before I pick my stuff up when I’ve been broken so why is now any different because one I thought I found somebody who actually loves me for me and will actually care for me the way I need to be cared for and loved I guess I was wrong caring for somebody and loving somebody isn’t putting your needs before there’s it’s putting them before you I’ve never been put first in any relationship that I’ve been in even when I was married the military was first and I was lost but that’s what you get when you’re military wife so I understood that my needs my lack of sleep and everything else is always lost nobody cares the way I feel I’m in emotional mess but I don’t let everybody see it I put on that fake smile every day like I put on my make up just to nobody knows the pain that’s hiding in the eyes very few can see it very few know it’s there But if you look deep in my eyes you will see the pain and the hurt and the frustration that I feel and have every day!
Some of you may be wondering why the title. Depression in others and how it affects you. You are probably thinking that if someone else is depressed it does not affect you, I am here to tell you that you are wrong. Depending on the person and their impact in your life it greatly affects you. If you are in a relationship with someone who is suffering from depression it will affect you in so many ways.. Their actions and words hurt and will stay with you no matter how many times you try and shake them off.. It also does not help if you are suffering from Depression as well, but their is many faces of depression! With me I just want to cry! I do not say things that are hurtful to others or will make them think they are not wanted! No matter what type of depression you suffer from always make sure you think before you speak! Words and actions really do hurt those you love!
We all tend to wear masks at times but some more than others. We try and put on a happy face for others and those you love when all honesty all you want to do is crumble. It is hard to pretend you are strong when you are falling apart at the seams and no one seems to notice really! Lately it seems to be a constant mask that I put on just for people to think that I am happy. I wonder was it really the right thing to do start over with my life when i am falling apart and no one seems to care. I thought I found the one who made me happy but lately it seems that I was wrong. It seems that the last 3 months have been a non stop argument. I hate this.. I am mentally and physically exhausted and I can not keep doing this.. I am falling apart at the seems and no one can put this back together.. My heart is shattered and broken barely holding on to what little bit of faith that things will work out at some point but lately i am beginning to think that is pointless why have faith if I am not even sure faith is what i need right now. I need a miracle to fix this!
At home or at work my mask is on! I have to pretend to be happy and that is hard at times! I should not always have to pretend to do anything. I should not have to pretend to be happy. Happiness should come automatically but that is not happening lately. I find peace when i am writing and that is hard to do when every time I try and write or i am typing anything all I ever hear is who are you talking to. Why is it that people assume when you are typing you are talking to someone. I am a typer, I am a thinking, I am very compassionate about what I do. So when I think of things I am typing them out. It is simply who i am.. You can not expect people to change their ways to fit into your life, but yet i am expected to stop everything and change everything to make someone happy! When you try your best to please someone and get no where you begin to wonder if it is worth trying any more! I am physically exhausted from trying! I am to tired to fight any more!
A mask does not help you change or hide the person that you are. It simply is only their to pretend that you are happy when you really are dying inside. I think a few times I have taken the mask aside and truly smiled but that is when I am talking to those who know the person that I am and except me for that. No hiding or pretending to be someone or something I am not in-front of them. So no need for that mask! It is a battle of mixed emotions at times and though I know my well being is at stake but honestly if I let my guard down and take the mask off it gets hard to hid those emotions. So Its keep my heart guarded and the mask on and only let those true to you know what really lies beneath it. Though what is underneath the mask, is puffy eyes, a broken heart and tear stained cheeks. All in all An Emotional, Fragile person who is tired of being hurt, mistreated and abused. Weather it be emotional or physical…