Anyone who knows me can answer this for you. Well most anyone anyway! I think for my My proudest moment is when I learned I was no longer dependent on my ex husband. That for me was the biggest thing because I was always dependent on him. That for me was the biggest thing.
Another moment is when my oldest graduated High – school. So many times we thought he would not but he did. Seeing him walk across the stage I cried. Though do not get me wrong I am proud of all of my kids!
Another things is I am a bit more social than I was before. I blog more and do more Online. I am proud of the fact that I am actually blogging more than I did before in the past. My goal though is to actually blog EVERY DAY! More than just a blog challenge.
Being a Former Military Wife we go to the marriage counseling classes the military offers every once in a while -Marriage Retreats – Or the Marriage Research Project for Military Families. I have been to a few and of course you are taking quizzes, given books to read and of course taught walk away from arguments.
We learn their is 5 Love Languages
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Out of these five Mine is Quality Time, Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch. Yes it is possible to have more than one. Those are me through and through.
Quality Time is something I can not get enough of. Even it if is doing a simple task together. Cooking dinner, errands or a movie. Even playing a game together.
Words of Affirmation – I love it. Especially hearing I am proud of you or something to that effect.
Physical Touch – Who does not love to be touched. Even it is a simple touch of the hand, stroke of the hair, or kiss on the cheek. Anything to show you are loved!
Don’t get me wrong I am all for the other two but those are my top three. Little Gifts could make any girl happy, but honestly its more of the quality time that I want. Anyone can give gifts at any point in time but it is not often that you can get quality time with the one you love.
Now with that being said If you have not checked it out go to https://www.5lovelanguages.com/
take the quiz and learn more about your love language. I have met the Arthur of the book and read the book my self a few times. It is really good and you can learn alot about your self from it.
A few of my favorite things, where do I even begin. I know I have a few things that is my favorite and I have so many things that I collect! If I listed everything that is my favorite I would be here forever. So lets see what I can come up with
- Frogs – I do not know why, but I became obsessed with frogs. I have several little frog statues everywhere and stuffed frogs.
- Tatty Teddies – Those I started collected when I got my first one as a gift. They quickly became my favorite.
- Books – Some see this as a bad thing but I love books – I tend to collect them. I mean I have several full sets of books. Ranging from all different genres.
Those are just 3 things that are my absolute favorite! I could go on but that would take forever to actually do and I do not want to bore you with everything!
To be honest I have not completed a book in a while. The last one I did read completely was The Unraveling You Series By Jessica Sorenson. It is one of my favorite books. Though I do think she is an amazing author. I have several books on my to read list though. I tend to read all different types from Vampire Books to BDSM to Thrillers. It all just depends on what my mood is that particular time when I go to grab a book to read!
Everyone tells me not to worry so much but yeah ok that does not work well at all. I worry all the time! I worry about the kids even though they do not live with me, but that is every parent! I worry about the fact that I am never good enough all of the time. That is the biggest worry I have and I cant stop that honestly. I have tried. I tell my self differently but it does not help. I feel like I am never good enough for anyone. I feel I am not pretty enough, I worry I am not skinny Enough. I worry I am not perfect enough!
I do not have just one moment that changed me. Their is several that actually did. My children of course changed Who I was in general. I was not only responsible for me but I was responsible for three Kids. Three amazing children that I love dearly and would do anything for but that is any parent. Honestly I have not met a parent who would not do anything for their children! Though that is not all of this.
Honestly the moment that I decided to leave My Ex Husband. That moment changed me. I had to learn to live on my own and do things on my own. I did not have someone to support me and help me get through the hardest times. I managed to over come so many obstacles and what ever else that stood in my way. The biggest one was leaving West Virginia. I had a place in mind and that is where I wanted to be no matter what. So I packed up what I could and moved my self to Indiana. Granted I had very little money but I did it. I got to Indiana and I was ready for my new life. I got a job, a place to live all on my own.. Yes it took me a while to actually get on my feet but you know what I did it.
Along the way it took me some time to try and find my self so to speak! I fell in love and was broken in the process. That was not a mistake because it taught me to be a stronger person and to stand on my own. I think with that the relationship is something I wanted but was not the way I had envisioned it. I mean how do you be with a person you never see? So being on my own taught me to be a stronger person!
Today the topic is Your Biggest Victory!
That one is a tricky one but I am going to have to say that My Biggest Victory is when I finally got enough courage and left my Ex Husband. We were married for 19 years but it was a very unhappy 19 years of marriage. He spent the first 10 years trying to get away from me and the last 9 years trying to learn how to deal with me. I simply stayed as long as I did for the sake of my children! Anyone who has known me for any length of time will tell you that it was a miserable marriage.
Many times before I wanted to leave but I never did. Finally in 2016 I did and that was the best thing I could have ever done for my self! Granted I fell flat on my face at first but I got up and continued with life once again!
What can you say your biggest victory is?