Behind the Blog

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For Day 1  – I decided I wanted to Combine a few of them.   20 facts about me, Photo of me and the Behind the blog name! This way It is more of an introduction to the blog and myself at the same time!

20 Facts about me :
– I am a Divorced, though remarried Mother of 3.
– I am a babygirl – Though Alot of you do not know what that means. I will explain that     in another post at a later time!
– I believe that love is not about Gender. Love is Love No matter what Gender you dentify with!
– I generally keep to my self. I have a few friends that I will talk to but that is it. I am not a social butterfly that I once was! I blame alot on that though – I will explain that too!
– I am a huge Backstreet Boys Fan  – YES STILL!
– I love to read. Reading has always been a passion of mine!
-I love writing.  I have written poems and a few short stories. No they have never been published but I have had poems published!
– I have been blogging for a while now and I absolutely love it!
– I am a PC-Gamer!
– I am a Coffee-addict
– Gummy Bears are my favorite!
– I love to color and still do!
– I have alot of stuffed animals.
– I collect Frogs!
– I have  7 tattoos and want more
– I am a Graphic Designer
– I love taking pictures!
– Halloween is my Favorite Time of the Year!
– The Nightmare before Christmas is one of my favorite movies!
– I like watching Scary Movies!

That is 20 fun facts about me.. Now to the reason behind the name of the blog

The way I got the name for the blog is simple.  One of my best friends has the domain first and she started a new one so she gave this one to me.  I blogged under several different names in the past and honestly A few I loved the names! Though I have been blogging for about 14 years now and love it!  For the past 3 years I have blogged under Standing Still and when she gave me this one the name just stuck. A few of my closest friends say the name suits me better!   This blog is my journey through depression, divorce and starting over!   Though everything else has been threw in the mix but it works!   Well that is me and the blog in a nutshell.. I hope you will join me tomorrow!

 

 

 

 

 

Welcoming November

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November is upon us and that means cooler weather, hot chocolate, snuggled up with a blanket and my favorite book!  I have decided I am going to Dig out my House of Night Series and start reading those again.. They have decided to make that into a movie so I am excited about that.   Also this month I have found 2 Blog challenges that I am going to be taking from each day and posting something.   This way I can post like I want to every day!

Here are the two challenges I will be taking from. I found these on Google. I am not sure what blog they are with but I liked them so i wanted to use them and maybe get myself inspired!  We shall see!     In a bit I am going to start with  Day 1 – Your Blogs Name!  So be sure to look for that.

Halloween

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Halloween is upon us again and yet I am sitting here reminded of a failure if my life.  I am sure most of you who know me by now knew that I was engaged and was supposed to be married October 31, 2016, but that was a mistake and a failure. I guess in a way I blame myself for that. Though yes I have moved on with my life but it still hurts when you actually loved someone and lost everything to be with them. Just to turn around and loose them as well!  Though  now the only people in my family that actually talk to me is those who were not directly in contact with my ex husband but you know If they want to blame me for everything then let them. It is not hurting me at all. Thankfully my kids are in my life. Though I may not see them as much as I want to but I do talk to them and that is better than nothing at this point.  Two of them are adults and well Diana is 14, but I can see her and I can talk to her.  I am thankful for that.  I guess slowly in time I am trying to forget that but sometimes it is hard.   You get to the point to where you learn from your mistakes and i have learned from my mistakes but yet apart of me will still always love him though!

On another note my birthday this year is done and over and went pretty well and I am thankful for that. I could not have asked for a better year!  I guess i should get this posted. I will be back! I think in November I am going to try and join a photo a day!

 

 

Price Tags on Love

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You can’t put a price tag on love or can you? That is the one thing that is on my mind today!  Why, the reasoning is very simple..  My birthday is next month and I was thinking about what I wanted.. I do not ask for much on my birthday simple reasons I never get it..  The first thing  that came to mind is something I have wanted to do for a while now.. A simple tattoo on my shoulder blade that says Always & Forever.  That came to a quick no, because her family does not believe in tattoos.  They are the work of the devil and so forth.  I have 7 and would I go as far as regretting my tattoos no way in hell..   So thinking about it something else that came to mind is a New Barnes and Nobles Nook because the one I have died and I love reading.. I was told when I get the money and thinking to my self how the hell is that ever going to happen because I have no job because I stay here and clean the house and take care of every one else..  You would think that someone who supposedly loves you and appreciates everything that you do for them as much as she claims she does would spend a little bit on money on the person you care about.. I was sadly mistaken. So it seems a price tag has been put on love.. Hell I have told her for months that I need a pedicure because my heals are getting so bad that it hurts to walk, that has not happened yet and possibly wont happen anytime soon. SO guess what I deal with it..  I was told that I ask for everything.. Ok just because I said something in cute does not mean I want it.. Yes, It would be nice to actually have new clothes that I have not had for years  but no that wont happen.. I deal with what I have. Do I want to get out and get a job yes just so i can get away from here. But what then I still wont have money because I have to help with the household expenses while She does nothing because her back is hurt.  I hurt to but then again i am told its NOT ALWAYS ABOUT ME!  Story of my life.. Nothing is never about me!  Can i be put first before anyone else even a dog? No I am last when it comes to everyone!

That is why the post title today.. I feel that love came with a price tag and honestly. The thing is what can you do to change it or fix it when it comes to this point!    Enough ramblings for the moment.. I will be back later!

 

xoxo

 

 

Hello September

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Hello September. The leaves start changing as the fall air sets in. You are a welcomed change.  Hopefully you will not disappoint to much!   August you will not be missed nor will the roller coaster of emotions. Though I am sure I will have my fair share of them in September as well!  It seems that it is going to be another month like August but one can only hope not. I know i have to keep my thoughts positive and my head held high and see how things work. So I guess I will have to try that.   I guess things are just not ever working out for me and what I want..  I mean really is this the way September is supposed to be?

Though this month I do plan on blogging more than I have been  and getting back to my roots. Not letting anyone stop me from what I want to do or blogging about what feels right! I have gotten away from what I like doing only because I have let other people tell me what to do.. No More!  With that I will go and I hope to see more of you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thinking Out Loud

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Thinking Out Loud – I wish I could actually say how I feel to people and they actually understand it! Thinking back on the past and how things went and how you felt.. It is something that you can never forget  no matter what lies ahead for either of you.  Do I think things could have been different? Yes, but things happen in our lives for a reason and honestly sometimes you have to go with the flow of things..  Though sometimes you want to go back and change the past and you realize that you can’t.

How I feel about all of that takes a toll on you every single day. Especially when you loved someone and yes they loved you back. But they were not willing to give up one thing!  It is something that tends to play the what if game with your mind and heart! It seems to make you wonder would things have changed and you would have been able to be with the one person or would it still be a constant battle.  Though sometimes you can not live that battle of what if, especially when you know that it was never meant to be.  I wish somestimes you would just understand this and know how I feel. I can tell you so many times but you will never quiet get it.  I can’t help you lead your double life!

 

 

 

Blog Challenges

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You know as May ended, I realized that I never really finished the blog challenge and that seems to  be the normal thing with me at times. I get busy and not able to blog as much as I want to.

I don’t know why though. It starts off well and then in the end I never end up finishing things. Photo challenges are the only ones I tend to do but sometimes not even those. So i think  I will do challenges at my own pace.   It seems to be the best way to do it well for me anyway!

So maybe what I think I am going to do is just do posts when I can do them and try and start blogging at least a few times a week and do things as much as I can!