We all makes mistakes in life that we can not change though we regret them. My biggest mistake is being stuck with one or 2 of my ex husbands bills.. Yes, you read that right. I am stuck with his bills. I can not pay them right out because the balance is to high! One of them alone right now is over $4,000.00, that is no joke.. Daily I get calls from the collection agency. When can you take care of this balance. No matter how many times I have told them it is not mine, I get the same some and dance. “Well your name was added to the account so their for we can not reach him and you are the only one we can get a hold of so their for it is your responsibility to pay this. It gets so old any more. I mean hell, they take my taxes every single year and have for the past 2 years. Even state takes. Did I mention, A month a go I sent them 1,000.00 and that has take the debit down to what it is now.. Sadly they add interest at a high rate that small weekly payments are not even enough to make a dent in it due to interest! That right their is enough to drive anyone crazy!
So the other day at work, Someone asked me how i was so young and have been divorced! I think that was the hardest thing for me to answer but yet the easiest! Its not a mistake or the hardest thing getting divorced. When the person you were with tells you our of his own mouth that he is only with you still because of the kids and emotionally and physically abuses you then it is honestly time to get out while you can. I am sad that it took me so long to realize what I was worth! Though sometimes now I still have a hard time realizing that. When you go through it for a better part of 18 years, you have a hard time believing you are actually worth something! I would have gotten out of the relationship sooner if I actually thought I could but it was never the right time. Others will say it was not the right time when I did but when you start to feel your depression kicking into high gear and you your self begin to feel that you are better off not around it is time to get out! Even if it means leaving everything and your children behind because you knew deep down he was capable of taking care of them more than you could at the moment! That is one mistake I can not change.. He has the girls though Christianna is going to be 18 in September. I would love to get custody of Diana but that is making sure I have a steady job working more than 3 days a week 4 hours a day!
Though story of my life no matter the fact that I have moved on. I am stuck paying for debits that belong to my ex husband.. A mistake indeed to co sign anything with him!